My Dad and the 3 lessons

Thursday, September 20, 2007

That's my dad in the pic. For a few months I had wanted to get with him one on one but had not done it. There always seemed to be something getting in the way; or at least I let it. Earlier this week I finally called him and invited him to spend a part of the day as I ran several errands... he agreed. Actually, my daughter Ashley reminded that I had not called him to invite to a Marlin's game. So with some guilt in my voice, I made the call. He declined my invite to the Marlins game (can't say I blame him), but accepted the invite to breakfast.

My dad is 79 years old and going on his 50th wedding anniversary in January of 2008. His real name is Ramon, but we call him Mongo. By the way, every one named Ramon is also called Mongo. Don't ask me why, that's the way it is for Cubans. I'm proud of him because unbeknown to him, he has taught me the best lessons of my life. Here's a short list:

1. The value of commitment. I have seen him being committed to my mom when things were really tuff. I experienced his dedication to his job, even though it was not too glamorous or exciting. His work ethic went beyond the call of duty, passing on having fun for doing what the job required him to do.

2. The value of serving. Faithfully and without complaining, he has served his wife and family all these years. Never complaining or expecting people to do the same for him. He is still doing it!

3. The discipline of self-control. When faced with the temptation of lashing out, his example is always vivid in my mind. Be quick to listen, and slow to speak.

These are just a few of lessons my dad taught me. I'm still learning them as life passes by. I'm glad to have spent a few hours with him this week. It helped me reflect on who I am and the impact we fathers have on our children.

Most of all yesterday helped me to experience the bond that exists between the father and the son. If you do not have a close with your father, and are able to reach out to him, make the call today. Please don’t get me wrong, our relationship is not even close to what I would have hoped for, but it was a special time nevertheless. I hope to continue to make that call.

Remember, our heavenly father who is always willing and able, is waiting to comfort you when we call on Him. If that is you right now, just take the time and ask him to do that... and He will.

ia